Get To Know Me/FAQ

I’ve been getting a lot of the same questions lately on Instagram and here on the blog so I thought it would be fun to share some of the most frequently asked questions I get so you all can get to know me better! From being a content creator and what I would have done instead to the boys’ schooling, and everything in between, I hope you enjoy this FAQ!

get to know me/faq

Get to Know Me/FAQ

How are you able to manage life with a five-year-old, a little one, and be a full-time influencer?

I’ve scaled back a lot and tried not to put so many expectations on myself. I have to remember the reason I wanted to do this as a career was so that I could enjoy my family, especially during the early years. Also, I have help. I have a virtual assistant that helps me with a lot of tasks so that I can have more time present with Uriah and Ezra.

If you weren’t an influencer, what career path might you have taken?

I have a degree in paralegal studies so I would have probably followed that path, and potentially gone on to be a lawyer.

What is your favorite perfume that lasts all day?

Recently I have been obsessed with Tom Ford Lost Cherry.

How do you manage to keep a clean house?

I clean every single day. It may sound absurd to some but really the only way to keep a clean space is by doing something every day to keep it that way.

How are you and your husband both successful and happy in your relationship? What are some core steps?

Communication.

Communication is important in any relationship, as it allows you to effectively share feelings, opinions, and expectations. For example, when we first got married I basically expected Colton to be able to read my mind. So if I wanted something specific and he didn’t deliver I would be aggravated. I learned to be more vocal. When Valentine’s Day comes up and I want to do something specific I’ll say “we should plan something!” or tell him I’d like for him to plan something. Now that we’ve been together for almost a decade I don’t have to be as vocal because he now knows to take initiative. We all have weaknesses and relationships always reveal these faults quicker than anything else.

An essential building block of a healthy marriage is the ability to admit that you are not perfect, that you will make mistakes, and that you will need forgiveness. Having an attitude of superiority over your partner will bring about resentment and will prevent your relationship from moving forward.

What does your husband do and how long has he done it?

Colton owns his own repair shop. He works on ATVs, UTVs, PWCs, and motorcycles. He’s been into dirtbikes and motorcycles pretty much his whole life so he knew he wanted to do something like that as a career. If you’ve been around for a while you might remember we lived in Orlando for a little bit. We moved there because Colton went to school at the Motorcycle Mechanic Institute so that he could get experience and training in the field and later go on to open a business doing it. He’s been working in the field for 10 years and started his business six years ago.

What systems do you use to plan your day, goals, etc? (Paper, digital, other)

I’m definitely a planner girl. I have to make a list and plan out my day. I used to be strictly paper but I recently switched over to more digital. I got an iPad a few weeks ago so I’m getting more into digital planning. Some of my current favorites for planning are Asana, Google Calendar, Google Sheets, and the iPhone notes app.

Where do you get your home decor inspiration from?

Your home is a place where you want to feel great. It should be somewhere that makes you feel comfortable and somewhere that hopefully reflects you as a person in terms of your style and taste. Sometimes it can be difficult. It’s taken me years to feel like I had my home style figured out and then even when I think I have it starts to change. My design inspiration comes from magazines, Pinterest, and showrooms.

How is it being a boy mom and the only woman in the house?

It’s fun, rowdy, and full of love. They definitely keep me on my toes, especially since Ezra is 9 months now and moving all over the place. My boys are definitely mamas boys and let’s just say Colton’s love language is physical touch so I get lots of love!

P.S. Check out Uriah’s Room Tour and Ezra’s Nursery Tour!

How do you keep the romance alive with two little ones at home?

We are intentional about making time for ourselves. Even if it’s something as simple as getting the kids ready for bed 30 minutes early so we can spend some alone time together. We also try to do weekly date nights. This is easier said than done because life gets in the way and sometimes you’re too tired to get dressed and go out, but it goes back to being intentional and putting your marriage first.

How have you seen Uriah grow and change since having baby Ezra?

Uriah has grown and matured so much. I know a lot of that comes with just growing up and getting older but he is the best big brother! Happily, with a combination of luck, and prayer he transitioned easily. Colton gave him the nickname “little daddy” because he definitely has been in daddy mode since Ezra got here. He is definitely his brother’s keeper!

How did you go about finding an in-home teacher for Uriah?

To find his teacher we just ran an ad on our city’s local Facebook page. We put in the pay and the hours and we got a lot of great responses. We had applicants send over their resume and we picked five that we really loved on paper and started the interview process from there. We had them each come in and let them meet Uriah. We let them interact with him and we watched from our phones in another room.

Another route we took that didn’t work out for us but might for you is reaching out to a local college to see if anyone who recently graduated in early childhood development was looking for a job. They gave us a list of names and numbers but we didn’t have much luck that way but it’s a good option to have! We decided to not go through a specific company, as it was actually cheaper to hire straight out.

When did you know that being an influencer was the career for you?

Being an influencer was never something that I knew was for me. I started doing this in 2010 before it actually really had a name. I just love having a community and being able to share and make friends online. I think one reason I’ve been able to stay in this career field for so long is that I didn’t go into it expecting anything. Everything came very naturally in its own time because I was just doing something I genuinely enjoyed.

What is your favorite space in your home?

Honestly, I love our entire home. It took a while to get here because our home was definitely more on the fixer-upper side but my favorite room right now has to be our bedroom or my office.

What are the job titles that you do for income?

I am what most would consider a full-time content creator. This has been my full-time job the majority of my adult life.

Do you keep Ezra home as well/ does he have a nanny?

I do not have a nanny which means I’m limited to when I can create content but one of the reasons I wanted to have this as a career is so I could be present with my children and not have to constantly work.

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  1. Jeannette says:

    Aww I love this so much! It’s nice to get back to basics and get to know a little more about you personally! Thanks for sharing.

  2. This was such a good read sis!! I was watching sistas a few months ago. And Fatima is a paralegal. And I remember thinking this is how Nitraa would have been if she went on to be what she went to school for. Fatima be dressed, hardworking, reliable, and always has her boss back. That would soo be you, if you had became a paralegal. Same here clean everyday and the only Queen in my house. I love it that way.

  3. Kathy says:

    Long time subscriber here. Loving the blog!

  4. Tnikki says:

    I’ve been following you for quite a while now and the update was nice. Definitely since you’ve had the boys. I knew life would hanger but great to see how you both have managed it and most importantly managed to keep you two a top priority!

  5. Chan says:

    I love this!!

  6. Charity says:

    🤍 this! Thank you for sharing! I love your videos and your blog. You are truly inspiring!

  7. Sierra Monaco says:

    I’m so happy to have discovered your blog. It’s so nice to have a one stop shop for all the decor, kitchen appliances, and all the goodies. Stay blessed 😊

  8. Renee says:

    Hi Nitra, Thank You for sharing a part of Your life. I’m a “Bama” girl too. I Alway’s Enjoy your content. Thank You.

    • Jynese says:

      I had fun learning more about you even though I have been a subscriber for a long time. We love your family and your beautiful content that you share. Thank you!!

  9. Agapé says:

    You’re life is a testament, an encouragement, and a motivation. I pray you always have the strength to continuously walk in your purpose sis! Thanks for sharing.

  10. Katrice says:

    This is so encouraging and motivational. I love how you stated you and Colton have to be intentional in your marriage and I totally agree. Can’t wait to see your Fall photos with the boys. I know they’re gonna be bomb.

  11. I blog often and I truly thank you for your information. This article has truly peaked my interest. I’m going to book mark your blog and keep checking for new information about once per week. I subscribed to your Feed too.

  12. Mimi says:

    This is so good! I like how honest you are about your marriage. You and Colton make it look so easy.